Losing the fear

There are so many reasons why people have fear. Heights, spiders, and driving in the snow can all be scary things, but why do we let that fear override the joy of nature? It’s an amazing feeling to conquer a mountain hike and stand at what feels like the top of the world, or see a glistening spiderweb in the cool, morning dew. And do I even need to clarify the beauty of a fresh powdery wonderland? These little things in life that cause fear can be the very thing that make life special!

Children can teach us so much about living life fearlessly. They leap into the boat of adventure and sail off without ever looking back! Getting dirty and being loud are never a concern, and it seems that life is so packed full of fun that they are constantly RUNNING to the next exciting moment! What an awesome way to live life!!!

Being a parent of a very courageous young lad is teaching me to slow down and let his little discoveries fuel his love of nature and science! It’s also brought on this new faze of saying “no” on a regular basis. This is a necessary evil because children need boundaries to keep them safe, but the “no” faze is now developing new challenges. Teaching our son to say “no” to himself has been a fear filled adventure all on its own!

Paddle boarding freedom!

There are many moments where I desperately wish there was a cut and dry parenting handbook to guide us in raising a respectful and happy child, but there’s not! With or without this elusive book of knowledge, I’m realizing that it’s MY fears that hold my son back from realizing his own. I know this sounds a little crazy, but if he never gets in the water, he’ll never learn to swim!

Reaching out to past generations has also reminded me that children need to feel like they are responsible for themselves to actually be responsible for themselves. Now for a overprotective mother this can be quite the challenge and a huge source of fear! I do however, have a helpful tip in this department. I focus on looking at life through the eyes of my child. Getting excited about his discoveries has opened up a whole new world of adventure for both of us because instead of being the overprotective Mom, I’m taking the role of a friend who wants to be part of the adventure! This role allows me to not only be there for my son in an emergency but also see first hand how wonderfully silly and creative he is!

Captain Walker and Skipper Momma!

It’s a fine line we walk with our children but if there’s one thing we all have in common it’s the love of sharing an awesome experience with someone we deeply care about!

Every parent wants there child to grow into a productive and happy adult and therefore we must show them how. Being their role model is one of the best ways to do this and it makes our adult life more fun! Show your children, and yourself that fear will not ruin your chance for an amazingly fun experience! You may be surprised how well they start to listen when you are listening to them in return. Let them lead you to new experiences and dive in… you may find you still have a little kid in yourself as well!

Mom’s new love! Paddle boarding! Thank you Walker D.

Summertime Blues???

It’s so true! There is definitely something to be said about that last month of summer when your kids are tired of the slip n’ slide, board of walking the beach, and have had way to much screen time for a healthy human brain, this can be a very difficult problem to remedy. So here are a few tips and tricks to help squeeze every last bit of fun out of the summer season!

  1. Ask them what there favorites are. (Stick to the 5 senses)
  • Sight – favorite color
  • Sound- favorite silly voice
  • Touch- favorite toy
  • Taste- favorite food
  • Smell- favorite smell

Now with this information have them make a talk show with other siblings or their favorite toy. They can dress up in their favorite color, use they’re silly voice, talk about food, smells, and anything else they want while you (or a tripod) records it! Kids love watching themselves on video so this should produce hours of fun!

  • 2. Play “Chopped” home edition!
    • Like the cooking show, give them 5 key ingredients to make a delicious breakfast, lunch, or dinner.
      They can use other ingredients as well, but the key ingredients must be the star!
      The parent or oldest sibling can play the host and interview them/ supervise them as they create.
      Then everyone gets to vote for their favorite dish.
      The winner could receive a 5 min. “Chill session” while the other contestants clean up.

    3. Have a garage sale.

    • Most kids are money motivated so have them make a mess of their rooms by getting everything out and making piles of what they want to keep and what they want to sell. They could use the money to have an end of the summer party for their friends, purchase a new toy, or go to a movie or theme park.

    4. Rearranging challenge!

    • Challenge your children to rearrange their rooms in a new way!
    • Give them a checklist of requirements to follow…

    1. Floor must be clean

    2. Toys must be organized

    3. Widows and doors can’t be

    blocked.

    4. Be creative!

    • As long as all your requirements are met, let them keep their newly designed room this way for at least a week. It will be awesome to see how their little engineering brains work!

    5. Outdoor Obstacle course!

    • Give them permission to use items from their rooms to create an obstacle course.
    • Dirty clothes can outline a running path
    • A box can act as a hurdle.
    • A jump rope tied to 2 trees can be a limbo bar.
    • They can run in flippers to the next task.
    • The possibilities are endless!!!
    • This game can also lead back to the rearranging their rooms game when it’s time to clean up.

    Our super bored kids are full of creativity if we help spark an idea of how to use it! Good luck and enjoy this beautiful season!

    Check out more ideas here!

    Put yourself out there!

    Living on a sailboat brings constant change. Change of neighbors, change of scenery, change of comfort zones! But the thing that means the most is the change in your “you time”! There’s many people out there that fear the thought of change more than a big old spider crawling over the arm of your couch. But I’m here to tell you that your wasting your time worring about what “might happen” and that if your not careful, you might miss the possibility of something great happening.

    This last season brought with it many challenges that to say the least… were unexpected. Starting with the realization that we were going to have to de-mast our sailboat and run new rigging and wind instruments by ourselves! We spent many hours researching and learning that the information super highway doesn’t have much to say on the topic of D.I.Y. rigging. But none the less, this was a project that had to get done and we didn’t have 25K to spend on it. To make a long story short… we found a shipyard that was willing to work with us and after all was said and done they even offered my husband a job! Love these island people 🙂 At the time, we were super overwhelmed with this make it or break it situation, which turned out to be a true blessing in disguise!

    By having this “misfortune” we found a great place to work, met people who would soon lead us to our next home port, and became more confident than we could ever imagine with the inner workings of our home.

    This one mishap saved us years of researching our vessel, as well as many unconfident sailing expeditions filled with arguments over what line to pull when and what to do with it once you pulled it! Now I don’t recommend running down to the docks and tackling this huge feet on your own, because that would be crazy! But I do recommend letting this one little story help you realize what you’ve been putting off because of fearing the unknown. Don’t try to be a know-it-all but do try to learn something new by putting yourself out there. I guarantee you’ll be surprised by who you meet and how helpful people really are, as well as how capable you can be when you put your mind to something you really desire.

    We all have the capacity to do great things! I find my strength through my faith, but whatever works for you is the right way to get the job done… you only have to decide to do it! Good luck, and please share with me what your next step toward change is!

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